Most non-muslim feel very happy and use the Verse 4:34 to criticise the book of Allah and that is mainly because of the misinterpretation of quran and the tradition in label Muslim society. Here is one of the wrongly translated version
The Quran 4:34
Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their, beds (and last) beat them (lightly); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance): for Allah is Most High, Great (above you all).
READ THE VERSE BELOW AND PONDER
The Quran 30:21
And of His signs is this: He created for you helpmeets from yourselves that ye might find rest in them, and He ordained between you love and mercy. Lo! herein indeed are portents for folk who reflect. And of His signs is the creation of the heavens and the earth, and the difference of your languages and colours. Lo! herein indeed are portents for men of knowledge
Because of this verse and other verses, which talk about LOVE and Mercy between (husband & wife), therefore some sectarian translator has soften the word "Idribuhunne" / DHaRaBa / BEAT THEM to (Slightly beat them)
But if someone read Al-Quran, he or she will easily find that this word (DhaRaba) is used in the Quran more than 30 times, and most of time it change its meaning according to the context of the verses .Therefore it is confirm that,- this (DHaRaBa) has multiple meaning.
(3:156;- 4:101; -38:44; 73:20;- 2:273 -2:60,73; -7:160;- 8:12; -20:77;- 24:31;- 26:63; 37:93; -47:4 -8:50;- 47:27 - 43:58; -57:13 -14:24,45; 16:75,-76,112;- 18:32,45; -24:35;- 30:28,58;- 36:78; -39:27,29; 43:17; 59:21; 66:10,11 - 43:5 - 2:61 - 18:11 -: 24:31 - 13:17)
If we check all above verses we will find that, the same word or the same root-word (DHaRaBa) is translated as to : GET/STRIKE OUT- -BEAT-SET UP-EXAMLPE -TAKEWAY-IGNORE-CONDEMN-SEAL-DRAW OVER- EXPLAIN and Also if we check Arabic dictionary we find long list on this WORD
However one of the main problem with sectarian Muslim translator, is that they mostly translate al-Quran according to their so-called HADITH and their sectarian belief. Which make thing more difficult and complicated . But, those who’s follow the Quran strictly they have translated this word as “ STRIK OUT or SEPARATED
But those who feel joys attacking Islam, they will not satisfied with above or any explanation, they will simply say whenever something embarrassing mention in the Quran, Muslim try to translate it by using deferent meaning or twisting it meaning to make the Quran error free
MY CLEAR MESSAGE TO THEM
1: GOD DO NOT NEED A MAN TO DEFEND HIS BOOK
2: THE QURAN IS FREE FROM ANY ERROR- EXEPT WHEN MAN INSERTED BY MISTAKENLY OR DELIBERATELY WHEN TRANSLATED INTO DIFFERENT LANGUAGE
3:MOST OF THOSE WHO ACCUESD THE QURAN- HAVE SOME LIMITED KNOWLEDGE IN ARABIC - MOST OF THEM MAINLY RELAY ON TRANSLATION
4. THE CRYSTAL CLEAR FACT IS THAT -THIS IS THE ONLY BOOK HAS SO-MANY ENEMY AGAINST IT- ( in all times)
5. THIS IS THE ONLY BOOK THAT READEN BY SO MANY WHITOUT UNDERSTADING IT OR AT-LEAST TRY TO UNDERSTAND, WHAT IS THE ACTUAL MESSEAGE CONTAIN IN IT, EXCEPT VERY FEW (only who believe in it truly)
6. CAN ANY OF THE NONE MUSLIM PROVE WITH FACT THAT NO OTHER NATION OR CULTURE USE SUCH PRACTICE [WIFE BEATING ] SAVE MUSLIM ?
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As I understand that the verse 4:34 is not talking about something in general. In-fact it is talking about the issue which is very serous matter such as "disloyalty" (having affair with another man ). Please be realistic and honestly tell me- what would be someone reaction, if he find his wife- having affair with another man ?
Most likely no mater which nation, culture or religion we see, on such issue, we will find that the vast majority man will either beat his wife or beat the man that having such relation with his wife and even you will find several cases of murders in relation to this issue.
Yet Allah did not allow man to beat his wife even in this satiation. Which is truly a very-very difficult for man to control himself, on such satiation?
Anyway here is how I understood this issue please follow them below verses carefully to grasp my understanding.
The Quran 4:24
The men are to support the women by what God has gifted them over one another and for what they spend of their money. The upright women who are attentive, and keep private the personal matters for what Allah keeps watch over. As for those women from whom you fear a desertion, then you shall advise them, and abandon them in the bedchamber, and set forth [divorce /talaq process ]with them; if they obey you, then do not seek a way over them; Allah is High, Great.
The Quran 4:35
And if you fear a split between them, then send a judge from his family and a judge from hers. If they want to reconcile, then Allah will bring them together. Allah is Knowledgeable, Expert.
The Quran 65:1
O you prophet, if any of you have divorced the women, then they should be divorced while ensuring that their required interim is fulfilled, and keep count of the interim. You shall reverence Allah your Lord, and do not evict the women from their homes, nor should they leave, unless they have committed a proven adultery. And these are Allah's limits. And anyone who transgresses Allah's limits has wronged his soul. You never know; perhaps Allah will make something come out of this.
The Quran 65:2
Then, once the interim is fulfilled, either you remain together equitably, or part ways equitably and have it witnessed by two just people from among you; and give the testimony for Allah. This is to enlighten those who believe in Allah and the Last Day. And whosoever reverences Allah, He will create a solution for him.
To me beating wife who is cheating is not an ultimate solution, here is few question for the sectarian who translate this verse as beating
If the verse instruction husband to beat his wife then how come Allah did not mention how much beating should apply ?
And since the Quran not mention anything at all about how much beating should be done then is this mean quran giving unfinished instruction ?
Anyway All mighty Allah did not left anything incomplete in his book. Therefore to me this verse is talking about separating from them or preparing the divorce procedure and that is the best solution. I believe if first two option fail then husband should use the commandment on the verse 65:1 &65:2 to start the divorce procedure
The history does prove, women have been oppressed or victim in the society by so-called Religion ,Culture or Nation . Except the true teaching of the Quran has given them high moral status such as :- Respect, Love ,Protection, and Equality
And at a same we do see sometime or in some Culture, Nation that -Man obey their Wife/Partner so much and do not hesitate to do anything for them. Remember that is also bad and extremism. Allah did not teach man to be slave of his wife,- Neither women must not be slave of her Husband too
The Quran 4:124
If any do deeds of righteousness, be they male or female, while believing, they will enter heaven and not the least injustice will be done to them.
The Quran 16:97
Whosoever works righteousness, whether man or woman, while believing, we will surely grant them a happy life in this world, and we will surely pay them their recompense for their righteous works.
The real life according to the Quran is the life of the hereafter. The life of this world is nothing but a short journey whose ultimate end is the life hereafter. The superiority among human beings is achieved by good deeds and no distinction or discrimination is made in favour between male or female [Allah knows best ]